Using Self-Talk To Create An Empowering Self-Image

Self Image, Identity – Building Your Foundation For Success.

Relationships are the key to a long, joyful, successful life.

Your relationship with yourself; your self image, the picture of yourself that you hold in your mind will determine how much you put into and therefore, get out of life. It means everything to your goal setting.

The great thing about your relationship with yourself is that you have total control over the information you process. Your thoughts are your own and no one else’s. If there is something that you would like to change about yourself, you have total and final say on what you want. Who do you want to be?

All you have to do is document the as is situation, and how you feel about it. Decide on what you want, bridge the difference with strategic actions, and build positive empowering habits which give you the results you need. Simple, right?

Simple, but sometimes not easy. There is real work involved when you start to change foundational habit patterns. Here is where the ‘act as if’ scenario really assists us with changes we want to make.

Goal Setting… Clarify what you want, decide to make it happen, internalize it, and then act as if it has already taken place and soon it will become part of you. Your mind will accept your constant input, and make it real.

Decide that you would like to have a certain personality trait, let’s say adventurous, and then behave as if you are, think about it all of the time, associate with adventurous people, and then one day you will find the transformation has taken place.

You will find that over time, you have actually became adventurous. This can be accomplished with any trait or habit you want to develop.

The most important action to take when dealing with traits and habits, is to find out which ones will automatically propel you towards your life’s dream, your purpose, your mission in life, and develop these.

You have probably heard that the most important thing about the accomplishment of some particular goal is not the accomplishment of the goal itself, but the person you become while achieving the goal. Well, this actually works in reverse too!

Practice and internalize those traits that successful people have, model their thoughts and efforts, and you shall almost coast to success. Our Label, our Identity that we hold for ourselves, affects our action, or inaction.

What I am going to say here is not to blow my own horn, but to share a method that I am using successfully to get myself to take action, whenever I need to. It proves without a shadow of a doubt that we can elevate ourself to the labels or identity we give ourselves. Unforunately the opposite is also true.


I created this label/identity for myself, when to tell you the truth, I was as far from a ‘realgogetter’ as one could get. Having always failed previously to consistently take action on the goals I would create, I tried everything.

I read every book I could get my hands on about goals, success and life strategy, ordered and listened to quantities of cassettes, and actually took in some seminars for self improvement. I would get excited for a while, and then fall off, when the real work began.

On one of Tony Robbins tapes, on Identity, I decided to create one for myself that empowered me, but was far from who I actually was. It was even a stretch for me to imagine that I could live up to it.

I nicknamed myself, ‘actionman’, and created my identity as ‘a realgogetter’, and when I needed to boost myself, I chided myself by saying that ‘actionman’ could do this. I can do this, I am actionman, I am a real go getter, with all the positive posture I could muster. And use real power moves that would psych me up…

I felt so foolish the first times I would do this, and then I noticed that soon I was not having to remember to aspire to my identity, as I was becoming my identity.

I have a whole page of description, as to who I really wanted to be, and I am gradually turning into that person. That person is me. I hope I am not losing you here, I am trying to communicate volumes with a few words.

To make a long story, short, One must be careful what labels one puts on oneself, because we do tend to live up, or down to them. So we might as well as put the qualities we would like to cultivate, up there so that we can live up to them.

This really works in your favor!

Your Self Image, your identity is the foundation that you build on when it comes to believing whether you are up to the task. Is your foundation solid? Who do you want to be when you grow up? 🙂


How To Expand Your Identity, And Boost Your Self Image, With Conscious Positive Self Talk.

If you aren’t already, you can be a “Do it now, Make it happen, Can Do” person. Just crowd out the negative, self-doubting, self-limiting thoughts that come into your mind and suck the joy out of your life. Here is how.

Think and dwell on only those thoughts that serve you. Repeat some of these affirmations as needed, or better still, make up some of your very own personal affirmations that boost your self image.

positive-self-talk-1024x724I believe in me.

I am an action person.

I create and mold my life as I desire.

I live each day purposely and joyfully in the present moment.

I am an adventurous, passionate, social, public type of individual who makes and keeps commitments.

I set and attain goals that I desire within my purpose.

I am a happy, loving, giving person, caring for others, and provide abundance for my family and those in need.

I have an abundance of health, energy, love, and finances that I enjoy and share.

I am a Do it now, Make it happen, Can Do kind of person, and once I make a decision, I follow thru.

When I commit to something, I can be counted on, no matter what.

. I am happiest when I schedule myself with enough activities that I jump out of bed in the morning, and last well into the evening.

My goals motivate me to stay up each day until they’re done, and I am satisfied that I have done all I can every day.

Health, Energy and Love are my highest priorities because everything I do, I share, and I have, flows from them.

I love my God, my Creator. Everything that stems from my life, I give the glory to God. I pray each day as if it is all up to him, and I work each day as if it is all up to me. I find this to be a perfect combination for action and results.

I nourish my body and my mind with health-giving elements and will not stand still for toxic foods, negative producing people, or environments around me.

I surround myself with positive, caring, loving, charitable, purposeful people that I can learn from and use the laws of association to my benefit.

I choose how to feel, how to believe and how to act, and I manage these constantly.

I sleep and rejuvenate as necessary to keep my mental and physical performance at maximum and optimal levels.

I am empowered to achieve whatever I set myself to, by having faith, believing in my cause, and knowing that I am following my plan and purpose, no matter how it looks or appears to be on the outside.

I set great goals. I calmly, plan, prepare, organize, execute, and follow up with them regularly.

I have made friends with the unknown and allow my many talented, always perfect, subconscious self to deal accurately with any situation that may arise.


I ignor the attempts of people who would sway me from my chosen path, because I know something they don’t, and I see the future how it could be, and how it must be. I know that they are doing the best they can with the resources they have, and I love them for that. I welcome the opportunity to share my viewpoint and therefore enrich both of us. I do not fear that they might see it differently, for there is always something that I can learn from them.

I am happy with myself and I love who I am, therefore I am fulfilled inside, where it counts.

Signed — Me…

Remember this one below for sure and pull it out whenever you feel any self-doubt creeping in…

I believe in me. Do you believe in you?