Emotionalized affirmation statements can work for us or against us.
You use positive affirmations because you want to achieve something, or do, or be more.
That may be more money, a new car, a bigger house, a better job, more success, or, on a more personal level, love, health, happiness or peace.
We all have such desires – we would be strange if we didn’t.
But these outcomes can sometimes seem so far beyond our grasp that we do not really dare to think that they could be ours for the asking. Our belief in ourself may be weak.
Instead, we focus on how far away from our desired outcomes we really are, and subconsciously negative affirmations become our mantra instead.
- We desire to be wealthy, so we think: Who am I kidding? I’m never going to be rich.
- We want that promotion, so we think: I’m afraid I can’t do it. It’s bound to go to someone else.
- We want love in our life, so we think: But why would anyone love me? No one’s going to love me. Look at me.
- We are thinking about the things we want, but from a negative perspective.
We must be careful not to create a negative affirmation that will work in reverse.
There should be no doubt as to why it is a good idea to flip the coin and start talking positively instead.
It is not as though we are being forced to start doing something we aren’t doing already, or that is in any way laborious.
How much effort does it take to say one sentence to yourself? And wouldn’t it be nice to speak to yourself in positive terms for a change?
Be Careful What You Wish For …
You will doubtless have heard this saying in the past. In full, it says: “Be careful what you wish for; you may just get it.”
This may appear an odd saying, because who in their right mind would wish for negative things to happen?
Unfortunately, too many of us do think negative thoughts every day. They become habitual, whether they are true or not. We believe what we repetively tell ourself.
Look at the examples above and see how it can be so easy to have a positive desire, that is expressed in a negative way.
Take the example of your desire for a promotion. Instead of repeating to yourself: “The promotion is mine”, you think: But it’s bound to go to someone else. Someone else will have more talent and ambition than I do.
Perhaps this is a means of protecting yourself from disappointment, but what you are actually doing is repeating a negative affirmation.
And your subconscious is receiving the message again and again, that you will not be promoted, and it interprets this as an order. Your subconscious will take whatever you offer it at face value.
You may think that your subconscious cannot affect the decision made by your boss, but your negativity comes through loud and clear in the way you act.
Your boss may be looking at you and feel reluctant to promote you because they sense you are not the positive person they want in a position of increased power.
So you fail to win the promotion largely because you have been thinking you won’t, and your boss has picked up on something negative that they don’t like.
Although you didn’t actually wish that you would fail, you helped make it happen because failure was the dominant thought in your mind. The above saying more refers to the thoughts that are uppermost in your mind for the majority of the time. We bring about what we think about…
The results that are manifested in your life can be directly affected by the thoughts in your head, and the positive affirmations you give to yourself.
More on why and how to use Positive Affirmations… How To Create Effective Positive Affirmations