When You Fail What Do You Do?

Failure_FreewayHave you ever failed at reaching a big goal?

I mean, one where you were tremendously committed to achieving it, but just couldn’t seem to break through? How did that feel?

On our goals journey, we will definitely run into problems and challenges along the way, this is all part of trying to achieve something great.

Some of these might be rather large obstacles and you have to know how to deal with them when they arise.

Failure is one such obstacle or challenge that can stop us temporarily, sometimes permanently.

Failing to achieve our goals could wrap us up in such a bundle of negative thoughts that some of us will quit trying.

So, how do you get started on your big goals again after suffering a massive debilitating failure that has completely immobilized you?

Pretty descriptive don’t you think? It is really never this bad. We just think it is, and our minds are powerful.

By the way we have all been there at some time.

First thing, you will have to grieve the loss of your time, efforts and possibly finances as some of these might be lost to you at the present moment. (Bear with me here.)

Whatever you have been told, as humans we need to feel our way through these emotions, we need to process the failure or the loss.


Sometimes all work on our goals will stop temporarily when we are presented with a mountain of negative emotions. We become confused and start over thinking the situation.

It is just a failure. Try not to make it any more than that.

Avoid wallowing in it, or having a pity party. We cannot change what is past, we can only adjust for the present and future.

So, just process it, think it through, analyze what happened with the goal, as soon as you get your emotions under control again.


You should finish processing this as soon as you can, but do take the processing time you personally need. We are all different here.

Don’t get caught up in something you cannot change, and we cannot change what’s in the past.

When you are past the grieving stage, start to get your mind wrapped around your dream, and your future life again. Revisit your goals, your mission, your dream. Our minds are wonderfully adept at this, we just need time to sort things out.

Feel what it would be like to have all of that in your life. Your mind can only hold one thought at a time so hold on to these positive thoughts.


Get back up and dust yourself off. Shake off the past by re-focusing on one small action you can take right away.

Start that small planned action right away, as soon as you make the decision. Draw deep on your supreme will power if you have to, but complete the task immediately.

start-with-small-goalsIf you have to, set new smaller goals that take you in the same direction as your big dream. Set them for that day alone.

Or, if this is even too much, set them for that hour only. Set yourself up for success by building small momentum first. This helps get you back on track.

With previous massive failure, your subconscious could be programmed to fail now, and you might have difficulty pursuing long term goals particularly so soon after it hasppened.

If this is the case, you need to succeed at small tasks and goals, then celebrate each new success with all the spirit you can muster. You need to re-anchor strong positive thought and emotions to your new smaller successes. You can do this…

This will soon reinforce in your subconscious mind that you CAN meet your goals, and set you back on the positive path again.


When you’re able to consistently meet your hourly/daily goals, then start setting them for two days or a week, and then work yourself slowly up to your long term goals.

failure-can-lead-to-successWith your confidence rapidly building again, you will soon be creating massive momentum towards what you want. Positive Momentum is good. 🙂

At any given time, in our quest for a better life, we might get stopped temporarily by a great disappointment. But, it is truly our own fault if we allow it to stop us completely. Quitting on ourselves is the only permanent failure.

Fear Of Failure Should Not Immobilize You. Work Through It. Be Better Because Of It!

Here is a great quote from Michael Jordan, one of the greatest players ever to hit the basketball courts.

Talk about success traits and keys. This is one very big part of the puzzle.

dunking-basketball-success“I have missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot . . . and missed. And I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why . . . I succeed.” – Michael Jordan

Now that gives a whole new meaning to this thought:

If at first you don’t succeed, then try, try again. Persist until you have what you want. Short, sweet, and tremendously effective.

Here’s hoping you fail a lot. Fail all the way to your biggest successes. 🙂

Sometimes we have to start small to win big! Study and implement more success principles from this free digital version of Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. It is chuck full of ways you can create a long and joyful life journey. Live with passion!



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