What do you do when you feel that all progress on your goal has stopped?
Do you question yourself on why you even have to have bigger goals? Sometimes you just can’t seem to get to them no matter what you try, or how hard you work at them.
Are you thinking that fate gave you a raw deal? That you were shortchanged? You deserve something better?
Got lemons in your life? Make lemonade… Or NOT!
Life’s so unfair!
.
Well, let’s say that you’re absolutely right! You really deserve something better than what you have now. You deserve to get your bigger goals.
But before you go and jump off the nearest bridge, slow down and think about it. Remove your emotions from the facts first.
Let’s say you’ve gained some weight and however you try, you can never get that last ten pounds off.
And when you can’t huff and puff all that overflowing fat away, you start blaming your trainer, your career, your parents (for making you drink vitamins when you were a kid), even your DNA for having fat cells!
Everyone and everything seem to be against your pulling it off.
Or let’s say that you’re stuck in a career that has become so stale that you feel moss creeping up your desk drawer. On top of that, you feel like you do all the work but the boss gets all the credit plus the top salary!
Oh my! That is so unfair.
You have become miserable and you whine at fate for all of the wrong it has given you. You feel helpless and can’t do anything about it anymore.
So what can you do about it?
More often than not, you’ll find that it’s really not as bad as you think. All you have to do is look at it from another perspective, a calmer, more positive perspective.
As crazy as this might sound, why not accept it? Accept that you‘re plump, accept that you’re in career limbo, accept the fact that others are better than you in your field and accept that you can’t have everything you want.
Accept that you are human. Accept it and do one more thing – be practical about it. And be happy with it.
I’m not saying quit on your goals, but you might want to evaluate them to see if they still make sense to you or whether you are just doing it because someone else thinks you should.
Check to see that you are going after the right goals for you.
Change the way you view the problem and you’ll find it in your heart to even be thankful for it. You have food to eat that’s why you gained weight, be thankful – half the world’s population barely eat.
You have a job you’re bored to death with, be thankful – you have a steady income while others are out looking for jobs. See the pattern?
You can choose to alter what you’re facing now and have a positive spin.
Acceptance frees you from unrealistic expectations. You don’t really have to drop those last ten pounds do you? You don’t particularly have to advance at work do you?
When you accept and you are set free, you’ll find that new ideas can refresh your outlook – choose a new style to complement your full size instead of hiding or get a hobby to get your mind off your work sometimes.
Take control and stop whining, it’s counterproductive! Do something about it or just accept it and be happy that you’re alive.
Work harder – or just step back and re-evaluate.
It’s your life. Do whatever you do for yourself, not because someone else thinks you should. What is right for you is the right thing to do.
One door closes, another opens.
So life’s unfair? Yes, it can seem like that. We can deal with it and come out a better person. So if life seems unfair to you, What Are You Going To Do About It?
Whatever you choose, choose to happily do it. That is where the real joy is.